Am I overreacting, or was he indeed an ********?

I do not think you are overreacting at all. This guy thinks its always about him when its supposed to about both of you. sometimes you will have to do what he wants to do however it works both ways. sometimes you gotta do what the woman wants also. He thinks its all about him and does whatever he wants. a person like that is not worth your time. Dump his loser *** and find someone who would care about what you want to do and is a gentlemen at least a little bit